Imagine that your girlfriend is in love with your dad. Can you imagine anything worse? Sure it’s a horrible situation for a young guy, but these kinds of crushes can be handled if you use the right combination of sensitivity and authority.
If your girlfriend is a teenager or in her early twenties, the chances of her falling in love with your father are higher than if she is twenty or older. Teenagers tend to have parents who may still be physically attractive to a girl and may fall in love quite a bit. Especially if your dad is handsome, an outdoorsy type of man, or one who is very up to date with all things young people are into. If your dad likes your type of music and movies, and can relate to the social media that you and your girlfriend use, then he’s much more likely to have an inspiring effect on your girlfriend. On the other hand, if he’s a total contrast to you, he may come across as “intriguing” to your girl. In other words, there are certain guys that younger women are more likely to fall for, but in reality all types of older men are potentially interesting to your girlfriend.
You may be disgusted by the attention he pays to your old man, and especially the flirtation he does with him. But don’t get too upset. It can be explained by psychology and hormonal reactions. If she was ever in a position to do something about her crush, she would most likely run away in fear. In the vast majority of cases where young women claim to be in love with their boyfriends’ fathers, they never get past the infatuation stage.
However, if you suspect that your girlfriend is capable of acting inappropriately towards your father, then the first person you should discuss the matter with is your father. Most parents are aware of any flirtations directed at them by their son’s girlfriends, but you need to be sure. Make it clear to her that she is showing an interest that you find uncomfortable, to say the least. Tell your dad that the fastest way to nip the problem in the bud is for him to say something first. The best situation is when the three of you are present, but no one else, as this has the potential to embarrass and really upset your girl. Your dad should tell her that he’s noticed her attention and he’s not happy about it. If your dad refuses to help you because he doesn’t feel your girlfriend’s attention is out of the ordinary or because he just can’t do it, then he’s up to you.
You should tell your girlfriend that such behavior is not acceptable, and that if she refuses to leave her crush you will have to cut her out of your life. If she loves you more than she loves your dad, then she will accept this ultimatum. If not, you have to move on.
