A receptive woman’s use of fantasy means that her experiences do not fit any of the descriptions of sexual activity that we see portrayed in society. Sexual activity is usually sociable but it is also portrayed in graphic terms. When something happens in your head, it can be purely conceptual. This is probably the reason why women prefer to read erotica rather than look at images.

A woman experiences orgasm by delving into her subconscious. You have to focus on the script that you remember from previous sessions. Alternatively, your mind may be focused on the text of a book you are reading. She cannot be distracted even by a leaky faucet. You need to focus 100% to get enough arousal to allow you to reach orgasm. Afterward, it is difficult for her to remember exactly what exactly she felt in preparation for orgasm. It’s like trying to remember a half-forgotten dream.

While fantasizing, a woman’s mind focuses on some of her most intimate memories or ideas that she has heard of. They are concepts that reach the more instinctive than thinking parts of the brain. They can include the idea of ​​enduring pain, inflicting pain, being vulnerable, fearing attack, and the mystery of what someone else might do to us. Many of these thoughts are like vague dreams and are not consciously recognized. They are the kind of thoughts that we never consciously admit to ourselves.

When we read we imagine the setting, the people and their emotions narrated by the author. But these images are not like focused photographic images. They are more like a collection of impressions or feelings when we dream. They are like echoes of the real world. The scene is presented in terms of the feelings and motivations of the people involved. This builds anticipation in a way that books do (but movies don’t). The erotic fantasies that a receptive woman uses to get aroused are psychological, full of anticipation and the idea of ​​others doing things to her. The action focuses on bondage, BDSM and penetration. Ultimately, the action of the fantasy increases her arousal so that the climax of the fantasy coincides with her orgasm.

Women who masturbate to orgasm rarely talk about the pleasure they enjoy. In the first place, receptive women are very ashamed to admit the nature of their erotic fantasies. This is quite natural. Our fantasies represent aspects of sex that we find most exciting and taboo. Even men don’t easily admit to the raw and explicit sexual images that they need to focus on in order to reach orgasm. These are our most private and personal thoughts. Receptive women also appreciate that most other women react with moralistic disgust whenever masturbation, clitoral stimulation, or sexual fantasies are mentioned.

Women are also reluctant to reveal their fantasies because they know that the scenarios they use for orgasm would be unpleasant in reality. Having a fantasy about a particular activity does not mean that a person wants to participate in that activity for real or that they would actually enjoy that activity. Nor does a fantasy represent an unconscious desire. This is, in part, why women are reluctant to tell anyone, even a lover, what they fantasize about.

Eroticism is a male representation of sex. Penetrating sex is exciting from a penetrator’s point of view. Penetrating sex does not arouse the person who is penetrated by an erect penis (the recipient). So, a woman needs to be able to identify psychologically with the male perspective in order to achieve orgasm. This is only possible when a woman plunges into a surreal and almost subconscious world in her head. In this world, she can approach sexual situations from a male perspective and experience the kind of excitement that tumescence of the clitoral organ causes. Once the clitoral organ is tumescent, the woman can massage the internal organ to achieve orgasm.

The concept of penetration through the penis is key to achieving arousal. A woman cannot be the penetrator in real life, but she can use fantasy to psychologically put herself in the male position. A woman gets sexual satisfaction from the idea of ​​dominating or doing something to another person. Fantasy allows a woman to be the man who is penetrating a lover and at the same time is the woman who is being penetrated. Women describe this technique as putting themselves in the role of director. This emulation of the man is implicit rather than being a personification of a man in real life.

Fantasy is a mechanism for achieving orgasm rather than being an activity that the woman engages in on her own. Receptive women use erotic fantasies as a conscious psychological technique for the sole purpose of enjoying orgasm. A woman’s sense of liberation comes purely from the use of fantasy. Women have a limited menu of fantasies to choose from. This seems to be the result of a natural apathy towards the effort to find erotic material. A woman may have only a handful of fantasies that she uses on a regular basis, some of which originate when she first started masturbating.

Given the nature of their fantasies, women may avoid masturbating feeling that it is immoral. It is not like this. When we fantasize, we release the subconscious thoughts that are there, whether we consciously admit them or not. Women can use a constructed rape scenario (these lack the real-world sense of rape) that allows the woman to take a passive role and focus on the psychology of the man who pleases.

Reality and fantasy are more separated for women than for men … (Rachel Swift 1999)