If there were two people on earth who wouldn’t want to see you hurt, it would be your sweet best friend and your loving boyfriend. At least that was what you used to believe. But now your world is turned upside down when the same two people are the ones causing you so much pain. The pain of betrayal by your most trusted people is devastating, to say the least. You are probably so angry that the only thing you can think about is revenge. Calm down, being angry won’t do you any good, not that you care any less at this point. But here are some things to ponder that will help calm your nerves and guide you to what are the best next steps you can take.
1. There is a joke that the best revenge you can take if a woman steals your man is to let her keep him. The prank may just make fun of men in general, but when you think about it, if your boyfriend is capable of betraying you and leaving you, he is capable of doing the same to other people. So, in a way, it’s true that the best revenge is letting your ex best friend have it and who knows, one day he’ll leave her for someone else too.
2. Be grateful that you can get rid of the wolves in sheep’s clothing from your life. That girl is obviously not your best friend and that boy is obviously not the love of your life. As painful as it may be, it’s far better to find out now than to move on when you feel more comfortable in the relationship and find it more difficult and painful to deal with. So take this as a blessing.
3. Learn the lesson. Think about the relationship and see if you can find something wrong with it. What led your ex boyfriend to look for someone else? What quality in your girlfriend that he likes that you lack? When you become a better person, you do yourself a favor for your future relationship. It also opens the door to reconciliation with your ex boyfriend if you so desire.
4. Forgive and forget. I can almost hear you say “yeah, sure.” The truth is that holding a grudge will not punish you in any way. The only person who gets punished for that is yourself and you really don’t need to be beaten anymore. If it is impossible to forgive them, at least don’t put any more negative feelings on them. They really fail. You should at least forgive yourself. You may have done something wrong in your relationship, but the way it turned out is NOT your fault. Allow yourself to grieve a bit, then forget it and move on.
5. You may want to get back together with your ex for some reason, for example if you know you did something terrible that drove him away and you could have done it differently so he wouldn’t leave you. In that case, there is a strong possibility that your ex still loves you and left just because there are unsolvable problems in your relationship. You can get him to talk to you openly, without your ex-best friend, of course, and see if it’s possible to give the relationship another chance. Keep your emotions in check though, as this is very critical and you don’t want to waste your chances.
