cute writes:

I have a little problem, I am in a relationship with a man (my husband) who seems more like a girl than a man. I mean he’s all man, but he always wants things that a girl would want. For example: he needs a lot of attention when he does something. Let’s say he does a chore around the house, he always asks if he did it right. I tell him yes and he asks me another way. When he cooks, he does it very well, but while we eat, he asks several times if the food is good. He wants to be served all the time in special ways. He wants foot and back massages. He is not very proactive and I have to ask him to do things often. He says it’s okay to scold him if he forgets things. I have a little baby and I feel like I have a big baby too! I don’t want to scold, I don’t want to be a servant. I don’t want to do all the work, and I don’t want to have to assert it every time he does something if he does!! To help! He is driving me crazy!

My answer:

Hi Linda, no problem!

If your guy is acting like a girl, if he has girl energy, in receiving mode.

Only girl him.

Demand more of him.

Ask him what he asks of you, just be a little more aggressive.

If he always wants you to rub his feet, before he can ask, put your feet in his lap and say, “It would feel great if you rubbed my feet.”

If it’s a back rub, lie on his lap and ask him to rub your back.

Or when you want a cup of tea, say “honey, it would feel so good to have a hot cup of tea. Can you use my special brown mug”? “Say I feel so special when you do that for me, I appreciate when you do this or that.”

He is the guy who should be doing things for you and nurturing you.

That is masculine energy.

If he doesn’t want to do anything for you, just sit back, be a girl.

If this bothers you, just go into the other room and do it yourself, and stay there.

Do something else.

Clean out a drawer.

Make yourself a snack, stay busy.

Take care of yourself, not him.

It’s okay to do things for each other in a relationship, but remember this is a partnership.

You are not his mother, his maid or his house cleaner.

You are two adults on level ground and partnerships are a mutual conversation.

If he was a girlfriend who always required you and didn’t return you, you would dump her like a hot potato, so why is this any different?

It is girl energy to receive from your masculine energy.

If he is not helping around the house, if he requires you to scold him, ask him and demand him, here is an idea;

Make a to-do list, divide what you are willing to do.

Say “honey, I have some things that make me frustrated, when is a good time to talk about it”?

Say “there are things that need to be done, I’ve made a list. The ones with checks are the ones I’m willing to accept, and can you do the ones that aren’t checked off?”

Yes yes great!

If after a while it doesn’t help, if he says no or makes an excuse, say…

“If you don’t want to do chores, we need to hire someone once a week to come in and do it.

What do you think”?

If he doesn’t want to do the job, you might want to hire someone.

What if you don’t like or won’t let someone hire you?

You may want to look at other parts of his life and understand if there are other situations he is covering that he is not associated with.

This can help me understand why you are there and what needs to change.

Sometimes superficial difficulties are a sign of deeper problems.

This may lead you to counseling or training.

If you need help with training,

I would love to hear from you.

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I am very excited to use your tools and some of my own to help you.

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