good medicine?

So why not leave good enough alone? Do I really have the energy to make my wife feel like a million bucks? Well, taking care of our relationship with loved ones is good medicine.

Having someone to love and nurture is an integral part of being human.

Having someone to love and nurture us is just as important.

Life and success are so much sweeter when you have someone to share them with.

What good is a great story without someone to tell it to?

Love is the spice of life!

But yes…

But what if your love life isn’t that sweet? What if you feel like you’ve tried everything and she’s still not happy? And you neither? So what?

There is bad news and there is good news…

The bad news is that relationships take work to maintain their quality. Over time, we all tend to get comfortable with each other and before you know it, we’re taking each other for granted, pushing each other’s boundaries and just ignoring each other.

Now, you could be saying, but she doesn’t appreciate me. I work 70 hours a week to support my family and all she can do is complain that she doesn’t share enough of me. However, I can’t find a time when we’re not arguing or giving each other the silent treatment.

Well, these are real things to talk about. But, you can benefit from letting go of the past.

Previously, you may have thought that you should learn from past mistakes, and this is sometimes true. But, when we get so emotional over past problems and arguments that we’re not in the mood to try to make things better in our marriage, then it may be time to forgive or at least forget.

I am in no way blaming one partner or the other. It takes two to tango.

But, if you’re sick of feeling bad every time you come home, then what you need to do is take the first step or two towards a better relationship.

Now your next thought is probably, hey, why do I have to be the one to make the changes first? One thing about marriage, if you want to be truly happily married, you have to stop keeping score.

So, are you ready to start the first day of your NEW marriage? The one where you can’t wait to get home to your wife to tell her how your day was? Where do you have great vacations together? Where do you always feel loved, appreciated and respected?

Well then, let’s begin!

The good news…

Women like certain things. Doing those things will change the dynamics of the relationship dramatically and relatively quickly.

There is a lot you can do to spark that old love in your partner, to make them feel loved, appreciated and yes, like a million bucks.

NOTE: Before you read on, take some time to think about her and what she

REALLY cares. This step is very important in defining your preference among the many behavior options on the Love Actions List.

Some women love receiving gifts, some just want you to sit and talk with them, and some want you to respect them by helping around the house. It is important to find the right “recipe” for success.

speak to his heart

By examining the evidence your wife has given you, you can create a Love Actions plan that is perfect for her. By the way, just knowing that you are thinking of her and her preferences would warm her heart. Write the answers to these questions from memory. Don’t think if she would like to recreate them, just write them down for now.

What did you love to do together, but now you don’t usually have time?

Is there something she’s been asking you to do that you’ve been procrastinating on?

When do their eyes smile when you say or do certain things?

What places have you always wanted to go, but never made it?

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Now, with those things in mind, read through the list. Check off a few ideas that most closely match the ideas you have above or any new ideas that you think would really excite her and make her happy.

Gift of Love Action List

□ First of all, I know this seems too simple, but sometimes all a woman needs is attention and time. Reconnect with her with this simple formula:

Attention + Time = Millions of dollars!

Attention = Listen to her and really think about what is important to her.

Time = Undivided. Find a place outside the home; leave cell phones and PDAs at home. Note that you may not have REALLY heard it in a long time, so it may not be easy. TALK to her about what interests her. RESPOND by asking additional questions and trying to learn something new about her. Try to do this at least once a week.

Some questions to help you reconnect:

What regrets do you have and what challenges do you face?

What are your biggest fears?

What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done? or want to do?

What are your hopes and dreams for the future?

When you are older, how will you measure your success in the areas of family life, love, and money?

□ Schedule a weekend off from work where the two of you can go out together. Ask him first where he would like to go. Spend time walking, eating or just resting. Take her shopping for a special gift. Ask her what she really wants and wait patiently, saying you want something that will remind her how special she is to you. Think back to when you were dating. Talk about why he was attracted to her and why
fell in love.

□ Buy her a card and write her something special. Tell her what you appreciate about her and how much you love her about her. Try it out on scratch paper first and see how it sounds.

Think back to when you were dating. Would he have scribbled I love you? Or would you have continued to talk about how it looks and smells, etc.? And how does it make you feel when you see it or when you’re around it?

□ Get your message across in different ways! The element of surprise can make life more fun and exciting. It also shows that you love her very much and can’t wait to tell her. Write a sticky note and put it in her briefcase. Leave a message on their voicemail or answering machine. A little goes a long way when it’s not your normal behavior. She will start to notice the change in you.

□ Make an effort to speak well of her when you talk to your friends and family. When someone asks you about the kids or her business, find a way to give them a glowing review or compliment. Her heart will swell and in her mind it will establish her as safe within your heart.

□ Do something new and fun together. Our busy lifestyles make us forget that having fun is important. Instead of going golfing with your friends, ask him to go to the amusement park or play golf with you. Do something you’ve never done before or haven’t done for many years. Bake a cake, sing along on the radio, play miniature golf; something not too competitive that gives you time to laugh together again.

Laughter is the best medicine for a tired marriage.

Now, write down any ideas that came to mind. Also, write a date and time for the chosen activities. Be sure to ask her if her schedule is clear.

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Hopefully, you have found inspiration for your days ahead. But, if you can feel that there is too much tension between you, maybe you can start slowly. The first suggestion of time and attention is usually a good start in any marriage. You may find that you need a supportive environment to get started. If so, support is here.

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