Have you forgotten what it’s like to be in control of your relationship? Does he make all the decisions? Are you ready to recover the kidneys and crack the whip? Men are like horses, they need to be handled with confidence. If you let them take over they will veer off the path and start eating your neighbours’ hedge. That is if they can be bothered to leave the barn, when left alone they just sit on their couch watching reruns of old cop shows and eating hay. That’s why it’s important for you to be in control of your relationship.

Ok, so not all men are like horses (and we don’t know), for one thing, horses are much more athletic. But just like with horses, the battle for control is a very important part of a relationship. However, unlike horses, men can never (and never should) be tamed. Men need to feel like they are in control of the relationship, even when they are not. The trick is to take control without him realizing it.

making sacrifices

Most people have to make sacrifices to be together, but there is a limit to how much you have to give up. If you’re the one who’s always making sacrifices, change the situation and have him sacrifice something for once. If he complains, tell him that a relationship is committed and it’s his turn to commit.

just say no

To be in control of your relationship, you must learn to say no to your partner. If he makes unreasonable requests or demands, say ‘no’ and stick with it. It’s important that he respect your point of view and your ability to make decisions for both of you, so make a statement and don’t back down.

Sharing the power

These days, most couples share power and make decisions together, this way they can both wear the pants. Of course, it’s not always realistic to make joint decisions, but the trick is to be in control of the relationship without making him feel powerless.