Are you always too self-conscious about people looking at you and scrutinizing you? I have remedies to help you feel better. Read on to find out.

Here it goes:

1. Understand that people may be interested in you, but if you don’t pay attention to them, they will hardly keep their interest. They begin to pay attention to others. So you are pretty safe, you can relax and enjoy the occasion wherever you are.
2. You talk to yourself and so do other people. If you make a mistake, like dropping a glass or bumping into a guy, you don’t have to feel bad. Most of the people around you are concerned only with themselves and their internal dialogue is about them and not about you. So understand that even if you make mistakes like the ones above, they are hardly thinking of you.
3. In a meeting or meeting of some kind, if your thoughts are continually about self-awareness, help yourself by saying quietly: FINISH. At that moment he stops thinking that way. Find someone you know and start talking and gradually find more friends/family to talk to and enjoy your time.

I now gravitate to the above three situations in more positive ways:

4. Suppose people are looking at you with interest because you have dressed so nicely. Look around you and open your eyes. Take a look around and find out who you like and approach him gracefully and intentionally without feeling self-conscious. Strike up a light-hearted conversation and laugh at his fears and worries.
5. You have made your mistake. Take a quick look around and share with someone your mistake and how sorry you are. You can even ask them to show you the host so you can apologize. About bumping into someone else, confess to someone how clumsy you’ve been that you haven’t really noticed the person you bumped into. Acknowledging your mistake(s) will make you feel much better. You don’t feel self-conscious and you are ready to enjoy the occasion wherever you are.
6. If you can’t help but feel self-conscious about how long you’ve been in the meeting or meeting, telling yourself to FINISH will help, but it will also shift your thoughts toward something more positive. For example, say to yourself, “I can see Kate there. She’s always very decent. I’ll go up to her and spend a few minutes with her. Maybe she can introduce me to more like-minded people.” Or you can say, “I can see Grandma in the kitchen. I can probably help her and meet more people through her.” This kind of positive self-talk actually results in what you want happening.

In short, the six scenarios above will help you realize that feeling self-conscious is redundant and a waste of time. You can do much better by feeling confident and communicating with people gracefully.