Sometimes I hear of women who have been cheating on someone who is married. Sometimes, they truly believed that in due course, the man’s marriage would come to a natural and mutual end so that the two could be together. They wanted to believe that the marriage had become obsolete so that both people would mutually agree to end the marriage. Once this happens, that would free the husband to seek a new relationship.

As we all know, this is not usually the case. Usually the wife finds out about the affair and the marriage doesn’t end just because both people agree to each other in a healthy way. The wife is usually hurt and angry and, believe it or not, the husband usually panics and immediately pursues his wife, suddenly fearful of losing his family.

Understandably, this can leave the other woman confused. This is not how things were presented to him. And where is she in all of this? You can see how she would feel abandoned in the cold and unsure of how to proceed. She might say, “I feel stupid admitting that I honestly thought I was going to live happily ever after with the man I was dating. I knew he was married, but he introduced him to me as if he was working to untangle himself. careful that his wife didn’t find out. But she did. And I was shocked when she immediately told me that she couldn’t see me anymore and begged me not to make it any more difficult than it already was. I’m very shocked by this. And I feel estranged and hurt. Now this man and his wife are fighting to save their family, but what about me? I feel like I need to do something. I feel like I’ve been left out in the cold of it all. I’m tempted to try to contact his wife and defend my case. I want her to know that the husband told me that his marriage was over. I want her to have all the information so that she does not believe that her husband is loyal to her. And I want to see the other man and defend my case too. After From everything we’ve been through, it’s annoying that it’s just going to go away. What should i do right now “

Honestly, I’m not sure you like my answer, but it’s sincere and it’s what I honestly feel and believe. I admit that I have been the wife in this situation, but I have had friends in your situation and I hear from many on the other side of the equation. I can tell you that statistically, husband and wife generally end up together. It may take a while. And there can definitely be some uncertainty, but statistics show us that the husband is much more likely to return to his wife than to have a long-term relationship with the other person. You can check it out for yourself, but that’s what the stats show. That is why I do not recommend that you contact any of them. It’s only going to hurt, annoy, and frustrate everyone involved and chances are high that it won’t affect the long-term outcome. You will only cause pain to yourself, husband and wife.

I know that a great driving force for you right now is that you feel isolated and ignored. One reason for this is that it feels like your course of action is set by someone else. Since the husband and wife are married, they decide how things proceed, which can seem very unfair. So how do you regain a sense of control? Gracefully stepping out of this trio and focusing on yourself, your own well-being, and your own happiness. Take back control of your own life. Ask yourself why you would be vulnerable to settling for a man who cannot be uniquely yours. Fix your self esteem and then promise to give only your heart to the men who are free to return your love and be yours alone. All women deserve nothing less. I know this may not be what you wanted to hear, but I think it is the healthiest option. It gives you control of your life, it really is the right thing to do for everyone involved, and it doesn’t force you to go through thick and thin. Trying to hurt others usually ends up hurting you. There is more than enough pain for everyone right now, so you can never go wrong with focusing on your own healing.