Have you recently separated from your wife and are you trying to get her to call you back? If he has been leaving messages for his wife and she is not returning his phone calls, I would like to offer you a technique that literally works like magic. It’s very simple, it’s not tricky or manipulative, and it will arouse his curiosity. Ladies, feel free to use this one too.

First, I want to briefly talk about the typical phone calls that are made after people break up. These techniques don’t usually work very well, and if you’ve been guilty of them, stop:

• “Please, please, please call me!!” – Where you beg your husband or wife to call you back. This is a desperation tactic, it gives them all the power and makes you look weak and pathetic. And above all, it doesn’t work!
• “I really need you to call me. It’s an emergency!” – Tell your spouse that this is a dirty trick and if they fall for it, it had better be a true emergency. In any case, it’s a horrible way to get attention from him and will undermine your case anyway.

What I suggest instead is to leave a message that piques your spouse’s curiosity and do it in a way that flatters them. The next time you get their answering machine or voicemail, say something to the effect that you’re sorry you missed them but wanted to thank them for what they’ve been doing for you. He wanted to share it with them in person, so they would call him back when they got the chance.

That’s all about it! A message like this will drive them crazy wanting to know what the hell you’re talking about! This combination of curiosity and adulation is often too tempting and hard to resist to call back.

Ok, so now your husband or wife, out of curiosity, calls you back wanting to know what he has done for you. What are you doing now that you ask me? Be very careful here. This is the make or break time. One wrong move at this point could totally ruin it! You’ll need a cleverly conceived and perfectly executed plan for what to say when your call is returned. This part is more important than getting them to call you in the first place.