Imagine a woman who looks more like a man. She approaches sex already aroused and turns on stimulating a lover. She caresses and kisses her lover’s body from head to toe. She focuses on his penis and gives him fantastic oral sex. Where would the human race be now if women behaved like this? Most men ejaculate before having sex.
Men assume that their role is to provide the woman with the orgasm that she cannot give herself. However, this is a fallacious thought because orgasm occurs as a result of stimulating the tumescence caused by our own mental arousal. Men are proactive because they are sexually aroused. If a woman was turned on by a lover, she would be motivated to obtain her own stimulation. The sexual passivity of women, which results from their lack of arousal, allows men to affirm their own sexual needs. Intercourse provides male release and optimizes reproduction, but it has nothing to do with achieving female orgasm.
At first, a man may offer pleasures other than intercourse, but over time men focus more and more on intercourse because women do not respond positively to other pleasures. Women reject manual stimulation of the clitoris, which is too sensitive. Many women dislike the idea of ​​cunnilingus. Even if she allows her lover to stimulate her clitoris with his tongue, a woman feels almost no sensation and little pleasure. The lack of responsiveness of women ensures that sexual activity is focused on sexual intercourse.
Given the lack of arousal in women, a woman does not have a sexual agenda to address sexual activity with a lover. Whatever stimulus the man provides, the woman has little interest in knowing the explicit details. A woman closes her eyes and lets a man explore her body as appropriate. Women simply accept or reject the stimulation offered by men.
Men’s sex drive provides much greater (short-term) motivation to initiate intimate interaction with others. Men accept failed attempts as a natural aspect of being a man. If a man does not want to have sex with her, it is difficult for a woman to persuade him. A woman learns that if a man does not find her attractive, then there is no point in approaching him.
Women rarely force sexual activity with a man. Even prostitutes provide what a customer asks for. Some women may initially explore a lover’s body to give pleasure. But in the long run, women lack the motivation to be sexually proactive because they are not aroused. A woman naturally assumes a supportive role by accepting the pleasure that a man offers based on the excitement she enjoys exploring her body. The easiest role for a woman is to cooperate with intercourse as long as the man needs to ejaculate.
A woman is naturally in the position to have something sexual done to her (especially penetration). A woman cannot penetrate or impregnate a lover. It can only be penetrated and impregnated by a man. In the early days, novelty means the automatic arousal of a man so that a woman can enjoy being the object of her desire without having to contribute much. You can feel pampered instead of having to act like the concubine who concentrates on helping with male arousal. This also explains why rape fantasies are popular with women. Here it is important to distinguish between the reality of rape (a brutal act) and the fantasy of being taken by a man (an act of submission).
What is the anatomy involved in the female orgasm? What erotic excitements does a woman need to have an orgasm? These are basic questions that confuse most heterosexuals. Most men appreciate that their partners do not masturbate. Some men say their partners use a vibrator, but are unaware of the research finding that most sexual activities women do do not end in orgasm. Although men initiate sexual intercourse, women are also supposed to have an orgasm because this is the only sexual activity that women engage in. Heterosexuals assume that the vagina is the female sex organ because it is typically the only female anatomy that is stimulated. The conclusion that women don’t orgasm never seems to occur to anyone.
There are many slang terms for sexual intercourse, which are sexually explicit. The activity is called fucking. The verb to fuck is commonly used because it very succinctly reflects the male urge to thrust into a vagina until ejaculation. Hitting and fucking tend to offend women because they emphasize the passive role of women as objects to be penetrated. Fucking can be used as a more mutual term and implies that a woman may be participating more proactively by helping with penis stimulation. However, the vast majority of women prefer the term making love, which men also use in the presence of women, knowing that it is a less explicit way of referring to intercourse.
We say that a man makes love to a woman. We do not say that a woman makes love to a man. First of all, the acute arousal of men approaching sex means that they are primarily focused on stimulating the penis. Making love involves non-genital activities such as talking about love, stroking, fondling, kissing, and massaging the breasts, buttocks, and other non-genital areas. Making love is an activity that a man uses especially with an inexperienced woman or at the beginning of a relationship as a guide to intercourse. A man does not make love to a prostitute because her consent has already been agreed.
… the woman is generally less receptive than the man erotically, and for that reason … she less often takes the initiative in any sexual game. (Alfred Kinsey 1948)
