The term “cougar” is the term coined for older women dating younger men. This has been made popular by the appearance of Hollywood couples like Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon, just to name a few. Although, this was not so widely accepted before, but this has changed suddenly in recent years.
Older women dating younger men are not as accepted as May-December flings, instead older men date younger women. For the latter, these women are thought to be too old and people always look at them as mothers, so when they see older women dating younger men, people quickly regard them as crib robbers.
Why do older women attract younger men?
Most men would answer that the level of maturity and independence that older women have is what makes them attractive. With independence comes that security, older women are more established with their careers and lifestyles which takes the pressure off of young men, who are still trying to make a name for themselves. It also eases the financial burdens of men when the subject of money is raised.
Maturity can be both an advantage and a disadvantage when women are dating, it is a fact that women mature faster than men, as women get older, they appreciate more the meager things in life. They are more realistic and gravitate towards the simplest things in life. There are men who want this kind of stability. But sometimes this kind of maturity affects younger men who may not have that kind compatibility with their older partner.
Younger men find that they gravitate towards older women, due to their independence. There are younger men who find strong and independent attractiveness, those who can do well without the help of men. Younger men find that instead of caring for women, they want it the other way around.
Can this work and will it last?
In cases where older women are dating, there is always the issue of relationship stability. Will this kind of relationship last? How can couples make this kind of relationship work? With older women dating younger men, there are certain challenges brought on by the age difference.
Running against the biological clock
If couples are looking to start a family, they must take into account that, given the age disparity, women are in a race against time to be able to have children.
Younger Men Raised Traditionally
Older women are strong and independent individuals, if the man was raised in a conservative and traditional family, the need to be controlling or the unwillingness to accept this type of independence will be a problem.
Past bad experiences and other problems.
Along with maturity and independence come unresolved issues from the past, with older women dating younger men, these are some of the things the latter should be aware of. Sometimes these problems still arise today.
Who can say that this type of relationship will not work, it has been said that older women dating younger men are rare. But there have been relationships like these in the past and it has never been spoken of or accepted as that of an older man dating a much younger woman.
Relationships, regardless of the difference in age, religion, race, and much more, are tough, but people have shown that no matter what differences they have, they can always make it work.
